Shelter in Place Day 55
“Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws.” Barbara Kingsolver
I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again, the hardest part about social distancing is the distancing part. It’s Mother’s day and I’m driving to see my mom. I’ll stand outside my car and she’ll sit on her doorstep and we’ll talk for a bit. We don’t have the luxury of sitting for long hours inside, we are being safe for all of us.
It hurts not being able to hug my mom, or to sit next to her on the couch, where she can lean over and rest her head on my shoulder or we can talk about everything that the dogs have gotten up to.
We talked on the phone for a bit today, and changed our arriving at a later time. I asked if it would be better if we don’t show up. And she said, “No, your my only son and son-in-law.” Which really hit me hard. I love my mom.
I’m not saying everyone has great experiences with their mom’s, but I love the relationship my mom and I developed over the past ten years. And, I owe everything to her. My humor, my love, my caring and my beliefs.
I know there are mom’s you can’t go to see, in places you shouldn’t go. I know there are mom’s that are gone and I know there are mom’s who can’t be what you need them to be. I’m sorry if what I’m writing today hurts more than it should for some of you.
I know some will have breakfast in bed, or Skype their mom’s from across the country, some will send cards and still others will just think about mom or not. I’m lucky that I get to see mine today, even if for a short time. We are delivering designer face masks [@thewitchyjen on IG. My friend, Jenny Philippi.] We’ll be in our fun ones. And we’ll talk through them when I get close to dropping the bag off. Then it’ll be back to the car, where we’ll chat for a little bit and we’ll tell her we love her and then get back on the road.
No big dinner, not hugs, no kisses on the cheek, but all of that will be saved for when it’s safe to do it.
How are you celebrating today?